If at first you don´t succeed...

Not much has changed in the casa but there are a few differences that I have noticed. One negative change is that Cristofer, the youngest at the casa at 4 years old, now cries even more than he did last year. He will cry pretty much any time he does not get his way, which is often. He´s 4yrs old but when he was born he was dropped on his side and so he has difficult using the right side of his body, mainly his hand. He also has taken longer to develop mentally which could be in part because of the injuries to the right side of his body, but it also could be because he´s been babied since he is the youngest in the casa. Regardless, I have figured out that there are most likely two reasons that he cries. First of all, he is upset because he did not get his way and so he cries as a result of being upset. The second reason is that most likely this has worked before and so he continues this method in hopes of getting his way.

I was thinking how luckily we are that adults do not react in the same way because they have most likely grown out of this stage, although in thinking further I´ve noticed that people do still respond the same way, minus the crying.

Lets take the first reason Cristofer cries. He cries out of remorse for not getting his way and resorts to crying which has no positive affect and basically wastes time that he could be spending playing if he would just listen to what the Señoritas and I say. Likewise, there are many people in the world that try to get there way or try something new and fail. Instead of moving on with their lives many people choose to just sit and sulk. They just think "what did I do wrong" and dwell on the past and the fact that they did not succeed.

The next part is even more common today. People find a way of doing something that was successful and so they continue doing the same thing over and over expecting the same results. This may be in someone´s work where they manage to sell something to someone and so they use the same technique on everyone that walks in the door and expect to make the sale. Or maybe it appears in a parent who tries the same technique in raising their second child only to notice that their second child is not the same person as the first. This also happens on large scale in the government. Social Security was working just fine the same way for the longest time but now we´re noticing something is going to have to change. Slavery continued for as long as it did because for some people it was working just fine, they didn´t bother stopping to look at the big picture and seeing what they were doing to humanity.

Some of this may come as a stretch, and maybe I pulled this conclusion out of nowhere, but regardless of if my transition was a smooth one or not, the point still stands. Too often in our lives we get comfortable because something was working in the beginning. We fail to reassess the events that go on to see that, in fact, our way of doing things is no longer working or maybe it´s hurting someone else.

So my challenge for myself and my readers is to constantly assess what your doing. Is your way of doing things still working or is it not quite as successful as you though on second assessment, or is it possibly even hurting someone else?

Peace,

Brandon